Let’s face it. As easy as it may seem to the outside world, marriage and family can sometimes be a bit overwhelming. I’m saying this from my point of view and because I have seen it all. It got to a point where I wanted to give up and leave everything behind.
Things got a bit hard a few years in marriage after giving birth. I had just landed my dream job, but unfortunately, it required so much of my time that I had little left to spend with my family. For the longest time, I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, so I could spend enough time with my baby girl. I wanted to be the one to prepare my husband to work and ensure I was there when he got back. Other than that, I wanted to make a living and help out with the bills, and that came true when I landed a full-time writing gig. I was excited that I would not have to leave home to go to work, but little did I know that eventually, this would drain me.
Between juggling the baby, house chores, and full-time writing, it was just a matter of time, and I was already losing it. My mental health was only getting worse with time. On a side, but relevant note: mental health issues such as depression are common in stay at home mothers. I was only one person, but I had to play the role of a wife, mother, and writer, something that I did not seem to handle too well. Eventually, I had to give up other roles and focus more on one. For the love of money and the fact that I badly wanted to help my husband with paying the bills, I ended up spending more time working, and before realizing it, I had completely neglected my family, friends, and general responsibilities.
I could no longer handle simple chores like cleaning the house and ensuring that my child and husband were well fed. I focused so much on my job that nothing else mattered. Things got worse, and my marriage and career almost came to an end. My husband and I were always in constant arguments. He wanted me to quit writing and focus and the family, but all I wanted was to work. This almost broke everything apart in my life until my husband tried one last time with an intervention. “Get help, I don’t care how, but just get help, or it’s over”. Those were his words, and they got to me.
At this point, I decided to seek the help of a therapist, and I must say that it was the best decision I ever made. I could not find an affordable counselor near me, but luckily after doing hours of research online looking for alternative therapy solutions, I came across something known as a therapy app. I found one called Betterhelp, and it completely changed my life. Betterhelp was very reasonably priced, and the best part is that they provided financial assistance. What I loved most is that I didn’t have to leave the house to attend the therapy sessions. I had a very intimate, personal, and challenging relationship with my online therapist. It only took me a few weeks before I started noticing improvements in the state of my mental health. I got back on my feet, and finally, I could balance my work with family. I have been using the app for over three months now, and I can testify that it saved my marriage, career, and changed my life at large.
If you or someone you know is going through a rough patch in their life, please have them seek professional help right away. You could not only help turn around their lives, but you could potentially be saving them from catastrophic short and long-term consequences.